The other day I was in conversation with my husband about my life. Being a mother of 7 months old baby I mostly complained about how I miss my old life. After giving birth to my little one I don’t remember a day I slept for 8 hours straight. I am mostly spotted in a lose fitting maternity nighty and hair so tangled that when I see myself in the mirror I look more like a homeless destitute than mommy. My husband was patiently waiting for my jabber to end. Talking continuously for about fifteen minutes I paused expecting some empathy and holding hands. Then he said, “it’s normal and commonplace. Every mom goes through this. Don’t worry, things will get better”. He picked up the tablet and went ahead with the daily news and I was left thinking of how my situation can possibly get better until I actively do something about it. After dwelling upon the subject for sometime I decided to speak about it to my family as coherently as possible and ask them to offer help. That was my Plan A. I worked accordingly. I asked my husband to volunteer in little chores. I hired a help too. Life is still far from sorted but today it’s a little bit better than it was yesterday.
So the idea behind this post is to highlight the needs of a mother. These seemingly trivial needs have significant impact on her mental and emotional well-being. And even if we can manage to address a few of these, her life will change for good. So here is my list of little pleasures we miss dearly especially after becoming mommy.
- Weekends.
Few years back, weekend was one of the three favorite words of my life, the other two being home and food. I could sleep as much as I like, bing watch sitcoms, meet with friends, go shopping (buying things for myself) etc. I know, being mommy is serious business and you can’t expect to live life exactly the way you used to but still, getting a holiday is it such a distant dream ? And when I say weekend or holiday I mean a day in a week where we have to work a little less, sleep a little more, find an hour or two for ourselves. We miss weekends a lot.
2. Quite mornings.
How I begin my day dictates the rest of it. So I used to get up before everyone else, make myself a strong cup of tea and enjoy the solitude for a few minutes before I start my day. Now my mornings are chaos redefined! I wake up to explosive diapers, impatient maids’ ring the doorbell like this is apocalypse, angry husband because his luxurious sleep is interrupted and a bladder ready to burst....Read more
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